I hear a lot of ladies very many times saying I’m looking for a
husband o either as a joke or actually being serious and am also guilty of this(as
a joke though). And many actually go out of their way to “find” this husband. But
this is not the case, this should not be the case. The last time I read proverbs
18 v 22, it still read “he who finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains
favour from the lord”. That is to say that we are meant to be “found”. The bible
didn’t say he who finds a husband and there’s a reason for that. So if you are
a Christian, why not keep every part of his word and not always trying to wave
off some scriptures with the excuse that a different thing is now obtainable in
our present dispensation.
You are not to find, you are to be found. Your job?
Prepare so
you’ll not be tossed away when found. “Look”. Wait and
listen.
How then do you prepare? Ruth will be our example.
Live holy, abide by His word, let your actions conform with his
word not the world, become prayerful, build your relationship with God, deal
with anger and jealousy in your life, being just a Christian is not enough,
deal with untidy habits, deal with your dressing, your eating habits, basic
etiquettes that a lady should have, deal with your talking habits, be a
forgiver, seek for the fruits of the spirit, learn a craft or polish one you
already know, it can come in handy etc. I can’t really pick a chapter but a
look at the whole book of Ruth will tell you that Ruth was prepared both physically
and spiritually, same with Esther if you read the whole book of Esther, so was Rebecca
in genesis 24. These women exhibited the virtues of submissiveness, kindness, homeliness,
obedience, proper upbringing and God-fearing.
How do you
look?
Come out, go out, visit friends, fellowship with the brethren, and
be at the right place at the right time. I don’t mean you should go clubbing,
no, but being indoors 24hrs praying for God to send him isn’t it. If God sends
him, how will he see you since you are locked indoors? Make yourself seen and
approachable, that’s all. Don’t be too much of a stay indoors kind of person. Be
at the right place at the right time, sometimes indoors is the right place at
the wrong time and vice versa. Rebecca was at the right place at the right
time. Gen 24 v 14 showed that it was a time that daughters of the place came
down to fetch water at the spring and had she not been there, she would not
have been found. It also showed that she came out and not only stayed indoors. Ruth
also stepped out, Ruth 2 v 2. So did Esther in Esther 2 v 8. (I’m using the
three ladies as bible examples when I said I’ll use only Ruth).
Then wait
and listen, how?
This can be a very hard stage where doubts may arise and fears
dismay but if you have God with you, you will not falter. Ask God to help you
wait for your time and when your time is there, listen to know when He is
actually speaking. Many will come along when you are done grooming but you have
to wait on God for the right one. Receive Godly counsel and back it up with
prayers. Esther waited for months before the king finally choose her, fear,
doubt, impatience did not get the better part of her, Esther 2 v 12-18. So did Ruth
wait and listen till it was time, Ruth 3 and 4. Rebecca also waited. She was of
age but she remained where she should be, waiting for when God says go and she
listened well enough to know that He had spoken and answered her waiting. Genesis
24 v 52-60.
Many of us ladies are quick and busy searching for a husband
that will marry us when we are not even ready, mentally, spiritually or
physically, we still have huge and mighty faults that scare men away, some
remain indoors fasting and praying everyday while the man is out there
frantically searching for them, others are just too occupied that they don’t
hear to know when He is around, only to just let them slip by.
Little tip? God is not an author of confusion. As the life of Ruth,
Esther and Rebecca are different, so is our stories going to be different but
whatever you do, Confirm it with the scriptures, it’s our life guard. God has
already seen the end.
little secret: if you keep searching, you'll keep failing.
little secret: if you keep searching, you'll keep failing.
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Love
Kambi