Hello
dear blog readers. Hope you all had an interesting night? I’m sorry I’ve not
posted for some time. Just been quite preoccupied with life, but I’m back now
to stay so enjoy.
Life
is hard. Don’t say it isn’t. It is, don’t smile it off and say she’s a child so
she doesn’t understand or that she hasn’t worked, paid rents so she hasn’t
tasted anything. There’s no specific circumstance that defines life as hard.
Life simply is hard, it just differs at each stage.
Hard means = great endurance and effort,
difficulty.
Hard
life means = a difficult life where things seem to be against you.
So
when life is not going as expected or as it’s meant to be or things seem to be
against you, life is hard. A lawyer would ask what’s the meter for measuring how
life is supposed to be, But we know the answer already without trying to get
all logical.
Let’s
take a case study of the kid:
She
goes to school with neat uniforms, new stockings every term, good bag, wears
nice clothes for Christmas, new year, Easter, eats whenever hungry, makes new
hair when due, then her dad loses his job. Mum is a house wife. She has four
other siblings. They don’t exactly change their lifestyle but they move to a
two bedroom apartment from the three they used to live in, eating is mostly
twice and barely three times, bread is now eaten only in the morning and not
anytime one feels like it, wearing new clothes every season changes, she’s sad,
she can’t get what she wants all the time again and she whines that life is
hard then we say, that’s not a hard life na. It is a hard life. For that little
girl whose routine has changed, whose life has taken steps back instead of
forward, who can’t eat bread always as wanted, life is hard.
The
teenager:
Who
is through with secondary school but has no admission yet. Friends are off to
school every day and she stays at home, after cooking, then television then
sleeping then a novel or two. She is looked at like she’s a failure. She says
life is hard and someone disagrees. It is. She’s supposed to be in school,
writing quiz, exams, attending lectures, finding and recognizing the path to
toe through in life and she’s at home cooking and sleeping for two years, of
course that’s a hard and rough life.
Or
The
student who goes to school, reads hard but ends up failing, struggling with
exams, carryovers, assignments, bad finances, life is definitely hard for her,
don’t say it isn’t.
The
adult
Looks
for work five years after school, then finds a meagre paying job, begins to
save to open up a business but there’s rents to pay, siblings to look after, no
investment or plans seem to be working, life is hard for such a person, don’t
say it isn’t.
Something
is only difficult and requires endurance when it’s not going the way it should
be, when life is not going smoothly it’s hard. Don’t shut
her up with the example of the man that lost his whole family in an accident in
a flood or the little girl that lost her parents and lives with heartless
relatives or the story of the graduate with no home who sells newspaper and
lives under the bridge. Theirs is hard too, only just a top notch higher but it
doesn’t make others easier. There’s no specific circumstance that defines life
as hard. Once, life is not going well as it should, it’s hard. You don’t have
to be poverty stricken, have cancer, be a homeless graduate, be single @52, be
blind or without parents before your life will be qualified as hard.
So
accept it, life is hard. It’s only when you accept that you have a problem that
you can find a solution. It’s only when you accept to be a sinner before you
can be genuinely born again. So accept that life is hard. It’s normal for life
to be hard, in fact, it’s in life’s nature to be hard else life will not be
meaningful. For the kid, why does she have to be hungry without food? Why does
she have to wear old cloths on Christmas day when others are wearing new
clothes? The girl without admission read
as hard as her friends. Why wasn’t she admitted? The one that was admitted into
school, why did she keep failing with carryovers even when she put in efforts
to get better? Why the bad results?
So life is hard because it’s in it’s nature
to get hard at some point. It can’t be all rosy. All one has to do is not give
up and not giving up will be so much easier when you recognize and accept life
as hard. As we humans have many qualities, so also does life has it’s own. You
won’t run from a marriage when your spouse shows up temper so why give up when
life shows it’s hard surface? Just know that when it gets hard, it’s normal, so
just keep working at it to get better. Giving up will leave life at the
hardness spot.
Also
life can show up it’s rough surface for a reason we may not always understand. For e.g., in my family, when we
were kids, we all had one health challenge or the other that involved frequent
visits to hospitals, owning bags and bags of drugs and all. It was a burden to
my mum then but today she is an expert when it comes to health challenges with
children and she helps a lot of panic stricken newlyweds in it. The brick walls
are there for a reason. The brick walls are not just there to keep us out. Life
is hard for a reason, it’s not always hard just for the fun of it. Sometimes,
it’s hard to give us a firsthand experience for handling a bigger purpose cause
when life gets easy and happy, when we begin to handle the bigger purpose
easily because of past experiences, then life’s hardness would have been worth
it.
So,
recognize that life is meant to be hard and it’ll be so much easier for you in
getting through. Happy new month dearies. Wish you all the mercy and favour
from God.
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Love
Kambi