We have
a lot of quotes flying around, some in the name of motivating us, others in the
name of what I don’t really know. They have become so popular and has seeped
into our everyday conversations that they seem true but actually isn’t. Here
are some of them:
Opportunity comes but once:
I get that this quote might be to encourage one to be up and doing but this
quote is wrong. Opportunity comes more than once, it’s been known to come
twice, thrice and more times after missing out the first. A better way to put
it would be to say, ‘opportunity rarely comes twice or barely comes twice’. God
sets those opportunities in our path and He can set it again and again once we
give it all to Him. So, keep that hope
alive, something might just happen, just make sure you are prepared to take the
leap when it does.
Love is all that is
needed: Funny enough, many relationships with abundance of love have broken up.
They remain friends but can’t come back together. Many times, I wonder and
marvel at such; if you say you love him or her enough to even remain friends,
what is that thing that is so hard to resolve between you both? Love is a huge
chunk of what is needed. God is the number one thing needed, communication is
needed too, understanding, tolerance are also very important virtues needed. When
you love someone so much, that’s not enough reason to jump into a conclusion of
marriage, there are other building blocks of marriage that if you don’t
establish along with love, the marriage will crumble at some point despite the
love.
Virginity is lack of
opportunity: funny enough, this has and is still being used to deceive a lot of
youths today and in an attempt to debunk the “insult” or “teasing” from friends
or peers, they go and have meaningless sex losing a treasure God gave them. Virginity
is not lack of opportunity. That is the ‘falsest’ of all myths I’ve ever heard.
In this 21st century, opportunities abound even from your teenage
years, wrong opportunities, mis-leading opportunities, destructive
opportunities. Virginity is lack of giving in, in abundance of opportunities. If
you are still one, hold on tenaciously to it till the right time, if you are
not, you can still decide to remain pure from now and turn back to God to help
you.
Be yourself, don’t care
what people say: there is much truth in this myth, it’s important to be
yourself and not try to live a life of pretense because one day it’ll wear you
out or you won’t even know who you are anymore. It’s also important to not
always care what people say. But sometimes, yourself needs improvement and if
people are not loving you for yourself, then maybe you need to check out what
people are hating so much about. If there’s need for improvement or change,
work at it and don’t keep saying, I’m just being myself. No one is perfect, we
are just working towards perfection but it’s no harm to scrap off things about
yourself that are harmful to relationships you keep. Many at-times, it’s good
to listen and care what people say, just learn how to separate the chaff from
the wheat.
Rule one of life: do what
makes you happy: it’s okay to be selfish at-times, to care about yourself, to
take care of yourself but that should not be a rule of your life. When you take
selfishness as not just a rule but a number one rule, it tends to cloud your
outlook on life and is seen in everything you do. We were not created for
ourselves, we do not live in the world alone, everything we do affects people
in one way or the other, you cannot be living a life of always making yourself happy
first which sometimes will be at the expense of others. Sometimes, we sacrifice
that happiness for others and these makes for great lessons of the future. Your
happiness is important but sometimes, much happiness is gotten in putting
smiles on the faces of others.
Your destiny lies in your
hands: a better way to put it is; you have a major role to play in your destiny
and therefore in some ways it lies in your hands but it doesn’t lie solely in
your hands. It lies in God’s hands, He shapes our life and puts us in paths to
take, however, He won’t take the step for you, He’ll only arrange the path for
you. Your destiny lies in the hands of God but you have a part to play to bring
about its actualization. However, it’s a choice to remove God from the picture
but excessive hard work with steep hills would surely be welcomed.
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Love
Kambi