Morning dearies. I’m so sorry for not having been able to post the past two days. Exam is coming so girl’s got to read.
Now to today’s question. I’ve been skeptical about answering
this question because I’m a victim sometimes so I thought that I may not really
be in a very good position to answer but I decided to share with you guys what
I do when I’m in such a position that helps. Question:
“How do I deal with depression? I’m always sad, unhappy and
moody. I need to get my head on straight or should I just kill myself?”
When I saw this question, I copied it out just to ask someone
and not to answer it but then I knew that for me to get to where I am now,(I
used to be depressed a lot, always) where I don’t feel sad and unhappy always
then I must have progressed in the depression journey. So I’ll just share what
I do when depression hits, that worked for me and I hope works for you too out
there.
11. Most times though not all times, there is a reason
behind the depression and like I always say, to solve a problem, you have to
find the cause and extinguish it. So when you get depressed, most especially
when it just happens out of the blue, when your week has been going well or
everything has been fine, then suddenly you feel depressed, then there is
something causing it. If you want to deal with the depression, deal with
whatever that is. If you deal with it or start dealing with it, you’ll feel so
much better. If it’s a failing academics, oya start reading, draw a timetable,
meet people to help you out, pray, do something about it or is it a failing
business or anger issues or wrong friendships. Whatever it is, do something
about it that will bring improvement and ask for God’s help too. Don’t just lie
down and wallow in the depression while feeling sorry for yourself.
2.
Talk to someone. I don’t do this a lot because I’m
not a talker but the little time I do, it helps. This I recommend especially
when you are getting suicidal thoughts. Don’t say there is no one to talk to. Talk
to your mum or your dad or your siblings or that friend or that teacher or that
pastor. There’s always someone that cares just a little bit more that you can
talk to. Talk to God, if there’s no one, He’ll send someone or He’ll do it His
own way. When the problem is not only dwelling in you, it helps. It won’t magically
get better when you talk to someone but there will be a little relief and it’s
those little reliefs that lead to bigger ones and you’ll begin to feel better.
3.
Get involved in activities. This keeps your mind
busy that you barely have time to be depressed. Have something to do,
engagements to keep, personally or workwise or church wise or schoolwise. Just be
involved in something. Don’t be an indoor person if you get depressed a lot. It’s
hard but if you get your mindset on doing it, you will get there. Get busy but
don’t get drowned. Don’t get so involved in activities that you over crowd
yourself and find yourself not doing all that is expected of you. That could
cause another bout of depression. Get busy in a balanced way, it keeps your
mind off somethings.
4.
Find your purpose. I believe that knowing why we
are here on earth, having a reason for living helps a lot. It gives us
something to look forward to. It gives us a sense of fulfillment, a sense of
belonging, a sense of existence. Doing something you love and doing it to His
glory can give you a reason to smile. This is especially necessary for those
having suicidal thoughts. If you are dealing with depression and you are not a
christain, all the above suggestions might help but no one helps better than
God does. In achieving all the suggestions above, no one helps better than He. For
e.g, the cause of the depression may be a huge problem bigger than you, He will
readily help you out with it so if you are not in Him, run to Him, He is ever
willing to help us out. Know your purpose in Him and walk towards it. Doing the
right thing at the right time gives you a sense of fulfillment.
5.
Last but not the least, I sing when I’m depressed
and alone. I pick my hymn book and sing aloud or I play my quiet time playlists
or I just sing worship songs to Him. I try to take my mind off whatever it
might be. I say positive things in my head. I write (it’s something I love
doing) too. Morning exercises help too because depression can weaken our body
system. I sleep sometimes too but I don’t recommend sleeping because when you
get into the zone of sleeping, all you do, is to now sleep and sleep away your
time.
Don’t forget your creator above,
prayer works too. If you can’t pray, talk to someone who’ll help you out. No one
is born with depression or born to be depressed, we can all work it out, just
get tired of it and determine to do better. It’s one step at a time, two steps
won’t feel like improvement but twenty will sure do when you keep up with the
two.
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love to hear from you how you dealt with depression at any point in your life.
Love
Kambi
Can relate. Great advice. God also really helps. It looks like he is not but He is.
ReplyDeleteLove the last advice..i've found out that when we sing to God with all our hearts, praise and worship Him, joy just comes streaming in. Like a light just blows into whatever gloomy feeling might be plaguing us.
ReplyDeleteGlad you are better now and working above this and also helping others with ur experience.
Wish you good success in your exams babes.
*much love*