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This is not my favourite topic to
talk about because of the ‘gory’ details but it’s a necessary evil considering
the century we are in. Like many other things in this 21st century,
there are so many false truths flying about concerning sex. Perverted stories
of what sex is and what it is for. Here’s ten basic things or more you need to
know and tell others about sex.
1.
Sex is for marriage only: number one truth. Sex was created by God for
married couples alone. There’s no ground or justification that can be given for
sex outside marriage. You’re about to be married is not a reason. You’re dating
is the worst possible reason. You want to see if she can conceive is wrong. The
most recent lie going around now especially in the western world is that the
right time to have sex is when you are ready. The right time to have sex is
when you are married not ready. Sex is not a knowledge gained by experience
outside the right circumstances. The end result is always hurt.
2.
Sex joins the ‘doers’ both physically and
spiritually whether you believe it or not: That you are not a Christian or not a
believer in God doesn’t change this fact. Spirituality and things we can’t
comprehend exist. So, breaking news….sex has spiritual backing. When you have
sex with someone, you join with the person in the spirit also and exchange
spirits, both good and bad. So things can get really good or really bad
thereafter.
3.
If you are not married, no excuse makes it right:
That you are going to get married or that you are in love or whatever it is, is
not an excuse. Sex is made for marriage. Outside marriage, it comes with a lot
of avoidable issues. If you both later get married, the punishment is mitigated
but that is not an excuse as many don’t make it to marriage after the sex.
4.
Sex is not the in-thing, it is the in-sin: many
believe it is the in-thing. It makes you a man, a tough or badt girl, a
celebrity among your peers, it makes you popular in your click. That’s just the
story you are told. When school is over, when you step into life, all the
damages gotten from your various escapades starts reeling in. A sin should not
be your in-thing. That everyone is doing it doesn’t make it right.
5.
Actually not everyone is doing it but many are
falling for it: “everyone is doing it” is a phrase that has made many victims.
Why not ask him, how everyone who is doing it turned out. Not everyone is doing
it! But saying everyone is doing it makes people fall for it…don’t fall for
that. There are those who are abstaining out there, don’t give in just because
you think everyone is doing it.
6.
There are so many risks associated with sex
outside marriage that are very much worth avoiding and it is fallacy to believe
that you can be very careful: You can always fall into the trap of unwanted
pregnancy, getting infected with any of the STDs or the father of them all
which is AIDs. You can also end up with great future disappointment that might
leave you permanently damaged emotionally. You can also end up with major
heartbreak that leaves you hanging unto the past and nursing hatred in your
heart. Things that can hinder your growth in all spheres of life suddenly
become your next door neighbour, so why not just avoid the risk and wait for
the right time huh?
7.
Sex is not an experiment….experimenting to know if
you are fertile, to know your sexual preferences, to know who you can end up
with, to gain experience. Once you involve God and end up with the one He made
for you, every other thing including sex flows on easily. If problems or
misunderstandings arise, you both can discuss it and plan on how to do better.
Experience or experimentation is not enough reason to experience No. 6 above or
to live a life of sin.
8.
Sex is not a proof of love: this is false on so
many levels. Love is not sex neither is sex love. That’s a wrong notion. Sex is
a pleasure God created for married couples to spice up the marriage and for
procreation. It can be an added bonus to love but it is never a means of proving
you love someone especially outside marriage.
9.
Condom guarantees nothing: many consider condom as
a savior from all the unwanted issues with sex outside marriage. I’m sure those
who feel for the trap have different views. It may prevent pregnancy, even STDs
but it doesn’t prevent the spiritual effects, it doesn’t prevent the emotional
outbursts and disappointments. It is not a safe haven so don’t consider it as
one.
10. Sex
doesn’t stop the menstrual pain: yes, some actually are deceived by this but
its another wrong notion about sex. For some ladies, the blood flow is normal with
a lot of pain while for some, its much with no pain. But sex doesn’t cure the
pain. In fact, during menstruation, your chances of being pregnant is 100
percent. There are drugs that can be
taken to reduce the pain but not sex.
11. Avoid the
after effects and you're okay: that you manage to avoid getting pregnant or having successful
abortion or not contacting STDs doesn’t make it right. Cups are created for
drinking while spoons are for eating or to scoop. Using a spoon to drink and
using the cup to eat will certainly not go well. Sex is created for marriage,
wait till then. I promise you that you will not regret it.
Any thoughts? please do share.
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Awesome piece. Sex is sacred for HOLY matrimony. Many are yet to understand this principle. Preach on sis!
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ReplyDeleteJust came across this blog through Pammie crib. This is a wonderful piece and I agree with you. Sex is made for marriage. Sex before marriage to me is an experiment but should be avoided because when marriage comes, sex can be done almost everyday but sometimes get tired. Interesting piece dear.. Keep it up!
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